Holiday Survival Tips
The Holiday’s is a time filled with joy, giving, communion, and
celebration, but the holidays also bring a certain level of stress for
many. It is important during this time
of the year that we practice self-care so that we are able to enjoy our time
with others with a loving and peaceful spirit.
Here are a few helpful tips in keeping your sanity during the holidays and not allowing the focus to be on gifts, and the perfection of menus, décor, timelines, parties, etc.
1. Lay the Foundation of Your Day
Each morning before you reach for your phone to check social media, jump out of bed, or turn on the news take a few moments and take deep abdominal breaths and focus on 5 things that have positively impacted your life and what it means to you. This can be a family member, friend, pet, or experience or just simply being alive. We cab even find a negative experience produced something positive that gave us clarity, strength or a new path. By filling your mind and heart 1st thing in the morning with gratitude and positive thoughts lay the foundation of your mood and attitude for the day.
“Gratitude is one of the most medicinal emotions we can feel. It elevates our moods and fills us with joy.”

2.
Connect with Nature
Research has shown just a few minutes in nature or outdoors can lower your blood pressure, and release the happy hormone called oxytocin. Although social media can be a great tool to connect with family and friends it can also cause anxiety with negative media feed, or the illusion of everyone else's life being perfect without blemish. Instead of sitting on social media after lunch, or dinner get up from your chair, grab your earphones, pump your favorite happy vibes song and take a short walk and connect with nature. You will be surprised of the moral boost you will receive and renewed energy from moving your body and getting fresh air.
Even better if you can infuse a hike or explore a local national park.
"Nature holds the key to our aesthetic, intellectual, cognitive and even spiritual satisfaction” ~ E.O Wilson

3.
Settle any old tiffs We are human and we are all uniquely different with a variety of experiences and viewpoints that often shape our behavior and response. Holiday time can bring old wounds to the surface. Social gathering can call for us to be in the presence of a friend of family member we have had a disagreement with. Instead of avoiding the person or festering try writing a short email or IM just simply stating your wish to be in harmony and let go of the past. Avoiding who did what is critical in minimizing further offense. I offer the vehicle of writing because it gives an opportunity for the writer to collect their thoughts and speak from the heart, the reader the ability to listen without interjection or rebuttal. Tip: stick to peace making words and avoid any terms along the lines of “you did”.
“Learn this from me. Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves.” ~ Mitch Albom
4. There is no greater gift than LOVE
Regardless of your spiritual belief system we all get tangled in the web of commercialism…”buy this”, “you need that”, “bigger is better”,” MORE, MORE, MORE”. Don’t fall for the overwhelming pressure to go beyond your budget, not pay a bill, or place yourself in credit debt to shower your love ones with gift or out do the Jones last holiday party. Focus on spending quality time and sharing memorable activities together. It can be something as simple as baking together, game night, making a craft together, or attending a local festivity. You will be surprised at the joy and love you will bring to each other that will far outweigh the designer purse or new gadget. Better yet, it is a gift that will keep on giving as you have the shared memory that is timeless.
“Since time is the one immaterial object we cannot influence – neither speed up nor slow down, add to nor diminish – it is an imponderably valuable gift.” ~ Maya Angelou
Over the years I have found making these small shifts during the holidays has greatly enriched my relationships and helped me maintain the peace that I so desperately need. Holiday time should be filled with joy but I have witness high divorce rates, suicide, excessive debt and mental breakdowns in our society from the sheer pressure of performance and loss of focus on what matters in life.
Take care of one another.
Kalencia Sanders
Arizona Realtor "The Dream Maker"